the pain and reason causing misogyny
this post wont vindicate misogyny. nor will it cast women as bad. it just explores some concepts related to the practice.
misogyny like all hate is an expression of pain, and frustration. it rationalizes and inters the experiances in best manner possible accepting the data. and the answer is that the other party was guilty. the other party knew the rules and obligations, and broke the trust. that party broke the trust either with consideration or choice or instinct. so to rationalize the circumstance, the blame is externalized to the other person.
at this point, it is just that one person who is the asshole. so they part ways, and the asshole gets written off. but then it happens again, this time it is harder to discard as a random occurence. still the person accumulating negative perception of the group doesn’t blame their preferences for the choice of company, but the company itself. these perceptions accumulate, and eventually clot, as a heart attack of prejudice which caricatures the person for the group they belong to; the mind is made up, and they are bad.
i just read an article about a girl who started doing porn while in a relationship with a guy. she never told the guy, someone else did. this type of experience seems like it could be sufficient pain to cause a hatred of the other gender. in another thread there was revenge porn site, where ex boyfriends posted porn of their ex girlfriends. and i can see that as similarly causing misandry.
people will find out their trust was violated, and i believe it would make it harder for the person to trust a member of the offending group later on.
i’m seriously considering being more outgoing but distrustful, with more significant perception of others as ‘less human’. people seem a traitorous bunch, and the best way to not get hurt is just to not trust and be blatantly dishonest. idk though i think it would sadden me to adopt that kind of mask.